I go one night to a nite club, meet someone there, go out several times, have sex, she gets pregnant, no love.

we live together but do not sleep together. we love the kid. I do not feel a squat of love for her as a person. Our characters have a few matches but are not ideal to look for a long relationship. it has been 10 years so far since this started. kid is biguining to notice our lock of communication. if this hapend to someone, please write up. I am 38 and I provide for everything, she is 32 and totaly non dependant.I go one night to a nite club, meet someone there, go out several times, have sex, she gets pregnant, no love.You have a problem. This could be a beautiful family. 10 years and no love? That's because you will not let it be.I go one night to a nite club, meet someone there, go out several times, have sex, she gets pregnant, no love.
umm....try some counseling buddy-works wonders

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I go one night to a nite club, meet someone there, go out several times, have sex, she gets pregnant, no love.WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU?
Time to split and become happy again.I go one night to a nite club, meet someone there, go out several times, have sex, she gets pregnant, no love.So what are you hanging around for? You can support your child and find a good relationship for yourself. Learn from your mistakes.I go one night to a nite club, meet someone there, go out several times, have sex, she gets pregnant, no love.
Not much you can do now but stay together until the kid grows up.
I think you should look in the yellow pages and look for a low cost/free service for professional consultation. This involves a young child and so far you both have seemed to be mature about what happened. It also seems that you both care for the child's well being so please seek professional help.I go one night to a nite club, meet someone there, go out several times, have sex, she gets pregnant, no love.
Are you married? Just living together? Either way, I think it's time for a conversation.



If you don't love her, don't waste your life and her life living together. You're not doing the kid any favors. What is he learning about relationships by watching the two of you?



Don't worry about her being dependent on you. She'll get independent when she finds out she has to. How did she support herself before you?



Just be sure to work something out where you stay in the kid's life. Be a good dad. Assure him that the breakup isn't his fault.



What you're describing really isn't that uncommon. A lot of people end up in relationships that aren't ideal and then think they have to stay together for the kid, and before you know it, 10 years have passed.



Good luck to you.
So what's your question? You want us to tell you that you're stupid, or have you already figured it out?
Why do people think raising a kid in a home where the parents don't love each other is so great? what are you teaching him/her by doing this?
You dont mention anything about either of you being unhappy? Remember a long time ago people did not marry for love. IF it is working great if it isnt then split up and get joint custody or full custody.
Why in the HELL did you stay so long. You don't have to stay with someone just for the kid, especially if there is no love for her. You owe that to your kid. Nondependent means independent. Maybe you mean codependent. If that is the case, you shouldn't have allowed her to become that way. But by staying in this relationship for 10 years....what did you expect? Especially if you didn't encourage her to become independent. If you want out, she won't have a choice. Just be civil to her for the kids sake.
I am assuming that your name is on the birth certificate for this child. If you leave, not many courts would give you custody of this child because you are male. They would make you pay tons of money in child support. Unless you can come up with some kind of legal agreement with this woman without involving the court system.
I guess you r fudged arn't ya?